Often times humans get sucked into the cycle of, “what can he buy me” to show they love me? A new car would be nice, those long stem roses and could you make it 3 dozen please? “Are you taking me to Fire Island this week or not?” Why is it that some people get stuck on the material things one buys them to show their love, rather than the non-materialistic gifts that are right in front of them? Don’t be blinded to someone who shows you real love because you think they have to buy to show.
Every new relationship has that certain ‘I want to shower you with gifts’ feel to it. The thing is the best gift they can give you is their commitment to you, their attention, their time, their love. Life is very short and we all need to learn to make the best of it. If you are in a relationship with someone and feeling unloved, ask yourself why? What is it that they are not doing that makes you feel unloved? Maybe it’s not them at all, it’s you. Are you the type of person that expects things? Do you want flowers sent on a regular basis? Do you want him/her to pay when you go out? Do you want to be showered with gifts and have a significant other that spends their money on you to show their love? If the answer is yes, ask yourself why? How important are those tangibles to you and what drives you to make them important? We all want a good life filled with niceness, happiness and love, the question is how do we get that when in a relationship?
There are so many ways to SHOW your love to someone without having to let yourself go broke! There are ways to let your love KNOW you love them, appreciate them and want only them. If they can’t be happy with some of these simple things, chances are they are loving you for the wrong reasons. Here are just a few examples of things that make a difference:
– Always answer their text messages even if it’s hours later
– Never ignore their calls. If you are busy, simply text them and say I have to call you back..then don’t forget
– Give them positive attention. Don’t just react to them, initiate the attention.
– Support them in their dreams, careers and goals. Supporting each other is important.
– If you are apart text them good morning and goodnight
– Pick them flowers instead of buying them.
– When you are together hug them, kiss them and show them they are desired.
– Send them a song that makes you think of them..better yet..sing it to them.
– Be there for them when they need you. You have bad days so don’t assume they should have only good days. If they need a hug or someone to listen it should be you listening and hugging them.
– Be proud and show them you are proud of them.
– Call them for no reason other than you want to say hello and know how their day was.
– Don’t flirt with other men. Definitely don’t get with other people if you want a loving, lasting relationship with someone you are currently involved with. That will break down trust and create doubt.
These are just a few simple suggestions that you can do to let someone know how much they mean to you. You don’t have to buy them a new diamond or a new car to say “I love you”, you just have to demonstrate your love from your heart. ACTIONS speak louder than words. Words are just words, actions are just actions but together they create something powerful. Truly loving someone comes from the heart and soul not from a wallet. Every second of time that passes by is time we will never get back. There is no turning back time. All we have is today so we should take every opportunity to make it the best! Love is a wonderful and beautiful thing. There’s an old saying that says, “I’d rather be happy and poor than rich and sad” …well of course we all need the basics meant and money is important, however, when it comes to ‘LOVE’, it should be simple. All you have to do is put a little thought into it and think outside of yourself, I bet the results will be a happy heart. Not just your partners but yours as well. You don’t have to buy someone, just simply love them.
