Gay men have been taking dating advice from experts for years who are either not dating or having sex in the city. And not only is their advice very 1980’s, it is simply being dished out by someone who was born in a time when there weren’t cell-phones, computers, hook-up apps or is happily married.
Modern dating advice lacks empowerment and can seriously take the fun out of dating, making it worse than preparing for a job interview. “Dating is nothing like a job interview!”
Dating is an opportunity to exchange your thoughts, ideas and dreams with someone new. As mother once said, “Dating is a chance to expand the branches to your tree of life’s lessons.”
Stop applying for a job and start acting like you’re interested in dating. Throw away the handbook and start dating with smart intentions instead of applying for a job as someone’s husband! If you’re like me and no longer believe in the gay man’s date handbook, it’s time to create your own handbook and start dating smart and for success.
Here are a few questions we found to be outdated, and probably the main reason you’re still single. Please, omit these questions quickly so you can get laid by the second date.
What was your last relationship like?
What do you do for fun?
What are the qualities of your ideal relationship?
What was your last relationship like?
What went wrong between you and your ex?
Bottomline, be authentic, present the BEST side of yourself and enjoy the discovery process; learning about someone new organically makes for the best dates and relationships.
