Men and Sex

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    How Gay Males’ Sexual Journey Are Ending Too Soon

    All of this is the real reason why gay media constantly makes many feel like life is over by age 30. It's partly physical looks by the substance abuse, but it is also a mental and emotional wearing down due to sexual boredom....
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    I’m HIV+: Sex Never Became My Weapon

    After hearing the words, "Your HIV test came back positive", many have a moment of denial. Some never recover. To the point that they never seek treatment, and keep an HIV diagnosis as the death sentence it once was...
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    8 Safety Tips for Hooking Up Online

    Hooking-up and safety have been a constant nag of mine since the Jussie Smollett debacle because hooking up has become a way of life. In the new age of technology and hook-up apps, I've noticed that our safety is not even part of the equation most of the times....
  • The Karma of “Preference”

    Then there’s the smack by Karma in which after disregarding one or more shades of people of color in their “young & beautiful” days that they finally decide to find those once disregarded shades worthy of their time. Then that person of color has one of two choices....
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    Are You Bad in Bed?

    How do you know when you suck in the bedroom when no-one ever tells you? Grievously, each one of the men I've been with lately needs a refresher course in sex or sign-up for Kinkster's "Power Bottom Bootcamp!"...
  • White male sitting on the floor nude with televisions surrounding him with body parts on the display

    Real Hookups are Nothing Like Porn

    Some of the story lines in porn make hooking up seem so glamorous but hooking-up can oftentimes turn out to be a nightmare. Ask any gay man and each one has a hook-up nightmare story that will either have you laughing your brains out or running for the hills...
  • African-American male model posing with a side profile with this eyes closed facing the left

    Top, Bottom, or Versatile – He Is Who He Is

    Males who have gay sex as a whole have been bombarded by what has come to be known as “toxic masculinity.” Claiming they are less masculine simply because they have sex with other males. It is bad enough coming from the overcompensating machismo of homophobic straight people and/or those...
  • Brando Marquez and his older brother Edgar posing with bunny ears, black underwear and harness by Atelier Cavalier

    How the Blond Bros. Discover Sexual Freedom

    When Brando, my model, and muse called me to bring him lunch one day, while I was in a meeting, I never thought my perception of sex would change so much. He just called and said, “Papi bring me to lunch I’m starving.” I arrived at a nice gay-friendly...
  • Two gay men looking at each other at Folsom Street East 2007

    Believe In Your DIRTY TALK Skills But Never Stop Improving

    The fear of talking dirty in the bedroom is not uncommon. Being verbal during sex might sound nasty, but for someone like myself, having a partner who is comfortable verbally in the bedroom is a major turn-on! A man who can tap into his inner Kinkster is a man...
  • Man staring outward with his left arm over his head with a black and red colorful light room thinking about his sex life

    Want To Step Up Your Sex Life? You Need To Read This First

    Everyone thinks they’re good in bed. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but a handful of you reading this are awful. If they had Yelp to review sex partners I would be the first to be reviewing a few I swear were the worst I’ve ever...
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    Why CRAPPY HOOK-UPS Is No Friend Of Mine

    “If you’re always ready, you don’t have to get ready” is a quote I wish someone would have shared with the last four guys that I’ve hooked up with who were all total bottoms over 40. If so I would not be needing to air my dirty laundry (pun...
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    Is It Time To Talk More About STD’S?

    This week the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) released preliminary data at the National STD Conference in Washington, DC. They reported that nearly 2.3 million cases of chlamydia, gonorrhea, and syphilis were diagnosed in the United States in 2017. This surpassed the previous record set in 2016...
  • Two gay men holding each other in a very tight embrace

    What Porn Does to Intimacy

    Compartmentalizing the physical act of sex from the emotional side of sex is nothing new among gay men but when the physical and the emotional combine, the fireworks fly and you have the best sex ever. In his article for the Huffington Post, “The Real Reason Why So Many Gay...
  • Men's Healthy, Men & Sex, Erectile Dysfunction

    ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION Tip: Shake It Up

    As I was riding the subway one day, I noticed an ad “Roman,” get roman.com/nyc. The ad was about erectile dysfunction meds. The ad states “% of men experience erectile dysfunction but 52% have a ‘friend’ want to learn more.” I thought it was a tongue-in-cheek ad on a...
  • 2 hot latin shirtless posting in their underwear for Pelo films

    Colombia’s First Adult Studio, ‘A PELO FILMS’ Launches

    When Camilo Guerrero, a young man from Bogotá, decided to start in Colombia a somewhat outlandish idea as an adult entertainment producer, he had absolutely nothing, just an idea and the dream of turning that crazy thought into a reality. That’s how on August 2, 2016, A PELO FILMS...
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    Edward Murillo Moreno: The Life of a Male Gay Escorts

    For years I’ve been drawing men from all over the world: Colombian, Venezuelan, Russian, Chinese, Japanese, French, Italian and Hungarian most of the time. What I enjoy the most about drawing them are their life stories. Some of them reach me through social media or through my web, but...
  • Kinkster MAG, Valentine's Day, Gay Relationship Advice,

    Is Valentine’s Day for Lovers Only?

    I popped into Duane Reade recently and that candy isle filled with pink and red hearts has reappeared. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. As I started to reflect on what’s in store for me this year, I’ve learned there is a growing trend to reframe Valentine’s Day...
  • Orgasm, Gay Men & Sex, Stuart Sanford, Cumfaces

    What Is Your Orgasm Face?

    Our orgasm face is something we either are embarrassed by or struggle to hide during a climax, an intense moment. It can also be a moment when two people connect. Our facial expressions can tell the full story; a story filled with the truth whether or not sex was...
  • Gay Dating Apps, Jack'd, Gay Men

    Stalkers Beware of Jack’d 4.0

    Safety and privacy have always been concerns of mine when using hook up apps like Grindr, Scruff, and Jack’d. I have personally witnessed guys taking screenshots of profiles to either save or share with other guys to compare notes. Once it happened to me, I was frustrated that guys...
  • Gay Men, Gay Relationship Advice, Sex Advice

    During Sex, Is It Okay to Talk About Someone Else

    Hook-up apps and websites have made it easier to find sex than love, but have they improved the quality of sex we are having? Without a doubt, we’re having more sex compared to when hook-up apps did not exist which also means our ratio of bad sexual experiences has...
  • Men's Health

    The Truth Is You Are Not The Only Person Concerned About THICK SPERM

    Understanding your body and having a level of comfortability talking about sex is critical for a health sex life. Talking about sex enables you to understand when something is wrong and requires a doctor and when human nature telling you something. Masturbation is critical for men because it releases...
  • crystal meth, drug addiction, gay men and sex, gay relationships

    A Black Man’s Life After Crystal Meth

    Addiction is a complex topic and especially when you’re completely free from the disease. Addiction is a bitch, and it’s nothing to take lightly. However, it wasn’t until someone asked me, “what’s life like after crystal meth,” that I almost had a panic attack. The question causes a panic...
  • Gay Dating Advice, Relationship Tips,

    Size Matter?

    Do size and shape really matter? Most of us would probably say no in the grand scheme of our relationships, but when it comes down to pure satisfaction in the bedroom, I bet that answer would change. We’ve all said, “it’s not the size of the ship, but the...
  • Gay Culture, Discrimination, Racism, Gay Men, Gay Bars

    Closeted Discrimination Within the Gay Community

    Discrimination and racism have become a hot topic nowadays and especially within the gay community. Every day when I log into Facebook, I see another comment, question or statement acknowledging the fact that racism exists within our community. I applaud anyone who stands up for what is right. Although,...
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