• Gay Relationship Advice

    STOP Talking About Your Ex!

    When you’re on a date, and you’re archaically waiting for the ultimate-date question of death something is wrong. You are either avoiding something or just not ready to commit to the process of dating and to get to know someone new. The question we all hate and would like...
  • Gay Relationship Advice

    Becoming Friends with Your Ex Ain’t Easy but is Possible

    Becoming besties with your ex can be painful and complicated at first but the payoff can be great. Many wonder if gay men can be best friends with their ex when the relationship ends. I’m a testament that it can happen, albeit after some time and work. For roughly...
  • Gay Dating Apps, Jack'd, Gay Men

    Stalkers Beware of Jack’d 4.0

    Safety and privacy have always been concerns of mine when using hook up apps like Grindr, Scruff, and Jack’d. I have personally witnessed guys taking screenshots of profiles to either save or share with other guys to compare notes. Once it happened to me, I was frustrated that guys...
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    Can You Really Find LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT

    I’ve been thinking about the idea of love at first sight recently and whether or not it’s possible. The way gay men hook-up and meet potential love interests has dramatically changed over the years making it simpler to connect to have sex, but pursuing someone beyond chatting or a...
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    TALKING ABOUT YOUR EX IN YOUR BEDROOM: What A Mistake!

    Hook-up apps and websites have made it easier to find sex than love, but have they improved the quality of sex we are having? Without a doubt, we’re having more sex compared to when hook-up apps did not exist which also means our ratio of bad sexual experiences has...
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    Dating Your Partner’s Potential: What a Mistake

    “He has potential” is a statement we’ve either said or heard when dating someone. Strangely my cousin and I were chatting the other day about relationships and how we date people who have potential. During our conversation, we both came to the conclusion that dating someone who has goals...
  • Recovery, Drugs, Alcohol

    Dealing With the Twisted Fate of Sex After Drugs and Alcohol

    The after effects of alcohol or chemical addiction can be traumatizing and may create fluctuating emotions and thoughts about sex, love, friendships, and how one goes about living without the negative substance and possibility the people connected to the source of addiction. Crystal meth was my drug of choice...
  • Gay Dating, Same-sex Relationships, Dating Tips,

    5 Steps to Prepare for a New Relationship

    The new year always sparks the love bug in me, and I am not the only one. A lot of guys at the beginning of the year reflect and think about finding love. However, finding love can be a challenge in the age of technology, and everybody is interested...
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    No More Mistakes With TEXTING & DATING

    Texting is no longer a trend but a way of life. Lately, I have been chatting with several friends who each say they are interested in a guy but they have arrived in the land of confusion because all they do is text one another. One of those friends...
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    One-Night-Stands No Longer Anonymous Explained 101

    Before the age of online dating and social networking apps, gay bars were the go-to place for gay men to meet other gay men and potentially hook-up. Nightclubs, community centers, and other social events where hundreds of thousands of gay men felt a sense of community have also been...
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    How to Handle Sexual Drive Differences in a Monogamous Relationship

    OVAH MAG reader James, recently asked for our thoughts on the effect to a relationship when individuals in a couple have differing sex drives. I’m not a sex or relationship therapist so take my comments simply as someone who was in a long term monogamous relationship (10 years), who...
  • Gay Dating Apps, Grindr, Men and Sex

    The Irreversible Impacts Of Grindr

    We all know it, almost all of us have used it, and so few of us actually love it. I am talking about Grindr, the gay app used primarily for finding hook ups that has been a source of turmoil in many of our lives since its initial release...
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    Is Interracial Porn Making You a Racist

    Porn or no porn? As an adolescent, images in National Geographic magazine made me blush, and that wasn’t even porn. Then there was my 18th birthday at which my uncle gifted me my first tittie mag, Hustler. Little did he know at the time, but I essentially became of...
  • Movies, Strange Love, Gay Love

    Love Strange: The Best Love Story Movie for Gay Men

    Ben (John Lithgow) and George (Alfred Molina) are a long-term older gay couple who marry after nearly four decades of being partners in Love is Strange. Their marriage, however, is not the only turning point in their lives. Although George’s employer, the archdiocese, knew of his sexual orientation and...
  • LGBTQ, Gay Dating, Gay Relationship, Ex-Boyfriends, Friendships

    Dating A Friend’s Ex-Boyfriend

    Is it appropriate for a friend to date another friend’s ex-boyfriend? A handful would not have a problem with it yet others have strong opinions about this very debatable and uncomfortable topic. In my youth I had a major problem if a friend dated or were interested in dating someone...
  • sex-dating-gay-masturbation

    Is There Such A Thing… I Masturbate Too Much

    Can a guy masturbate too much? This is a question sexologists are faced with daily. Personally, I never thought I masturbated too much until I started to notice my desire to have sex decreasing tremendously. By and large, for single gay man, having sex is a significant part of...
  • sex-dating-jealousy-relationships

    Jealousy Doesn’t Exist When You Communicate

    Jealousy is a bitch.  I recently watched a heated argument between a “couple” in a bar and it was apparent they considered yelling an effective form of communication.  A relationship between two men can be rewarding, but also complex and challenging because a large population of men don’t know...
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    Crystal Meth and Sex The Ties That Bind

    Imagine if you will the most intense, amazing, and powerful, mood-altering, and a mind-blowing meal of your life. Every bite is a smorgasbord of gastronomical orgasmic overload, with each bite propelling you to the next. While eating this meal of a lifetime, you experience extreme feelings of joy, pleasure,...
  • gay dating, gay relationships, one-night stands, men and sex

    Calling A One-Night Stand A Year Later

    On a beautiful September night in NYC, minding my own business, working on a business project, I received a text message, “Hey there.” It’s never a good sign when you don’t recognize the number and the clincher was it had no name associated with it. It’s a pet-peeve of...
  • gay dating relationship advice, Kinkster MAG, Gay Men

    When a Relationship Ends… It’s NOT Over!!!

    Society has, somewhat, programmed into us the ways we are to react when a relationship ends. I personally had to deprogram that nonsense because I found it to be debilitating and not very useful in getting rid of that “argh” feeling that most feel in the pit of their...
  • dating-same-sex-domestic-abuse

    Same-Sex Domestic Violence A Silent Epidemic

    Many people end up in abusive relationships only to feel trapped and afraid to get out; generally that’s because the abuser has worn you down, chipped away at your self-esteem and scared you half to death! The first and most important thing to know is ‘there is help’ and...
  • gay-men-dating-love-money-relationships

    Money Can’t Buy You Love in Relationships

    Often times humans get sucked into the cycle of, “what can he buy me” to show they love me? A new car would be nice, those long stem roses and could you make it 3 dozen please? “Are you taking me to Fire Island this week or not?” Why...
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    Meeting His Family Doesn’t Mean Anything

    Most gay men have been conditioned to believe being asked or asking someone to meet the family is a label for “it’s getting serious!” Are you joking? Consider this, an invite to dinner is only an invitation to eat, nothing more. Deciding to ask someone to dinner all depends...
  • dating-committment-relationships-sex

    Do You Have A Fear of Commitment

    A handful of gay men experience anxiety and fear when it comes to getting closer emotionally, making it difficult to commit. If and when the conversation about commitment comes up, are you the one who quickly exits the relationship? Is it possible your opinions and views about past relationships, the unknown,...
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