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    How to be best friends with your Ex

    If you had told me 18 years ago that my ex and I would be best friends today, I would not have believed you. We just broke up and I moved out and on my own for the first time since college. I was disillusioned by our break up...
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    How Gay Males’ Sexual Journey Are Ending Too Soon

    All of this is the real reason why gay media constantly makes many feel like life is over by age 30. It's partly physical looks by the substance abuse, but it is also a mental and emotional wearing down due to sexual boredom....
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    Can Love Be an Addiction – Blessing Or A Curse

    Love and Addiction, both powerful feelings. How do you distinguish between the two? Some may be able to know the difference, but others may confuse the "love" feeling with being addicted to someone....
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    How to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

    In the case that you met online and you live in different parts of the country or internationally, you may be able to sustain a long distance relationship longer than two people who have been forced to separate....
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    Can you find a love relationship on Facebook

    Have you ever known anyone who fell in love and had a successful relationship due to Facebook? I know, "what'? Think about it, is Facebook that much different than sites like, 'Manhunt' and 'Grindr'?...
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    Can a “No-Strings Attached” Relationship Lead to More

    Recently a friend of mine asked me if it’s possible for his 10-year on-and-off sex-only, no-strings-attached partnership to become more than what it is. ...
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    I’m HIV+: Sex Never Became My Weapon

    After hearing the words, "Your HIV test came back positive", many have a moment of denial. Some never recover. To the point that they never seek treatment, and keep an HIV diagnosis as the death sentence it once was...
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    At Last, The Secret To LOVE Is Revealed

    The newness of love is always exciting. You just can't wait to hear from or see that person. The time in between seems long as you wait in anticipation for the next time you are together. ...
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    8 Safety Tips for Hooking Up Online

    Hooking-up and safety have been a constant nag of mine since the Jussie Smollett debacle because hooking up has become a way of life. In the new age of technology and hook-up apps, I've noticed that our safety is not even part of the equation most of the times....
  • The Karma of “Preference”

    Then there’s the smack by Karma in which after disregarding one or more shades of people of color in their “young & beautiful” days that they finally decide to find those once disregarded shades worthy of their time. Then that person of color has one of two choices....
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    Are You Bad in Bed?

    How do you know when you suck in the bedroom when no-one ever tells you? Grievously, each one of the men I've been with lately needs a refresher course in sex or sign-up for Kinkster's "Power Bottom Bootcamp!"...
  • White male sitting on the floor nude with televisions surrounding him with body parts on the display

    Real Hookups are Nothing Like Porn

    Some of the story lines in porn make hooking up seem so glamorous but hooking-up can oftentimes turn out to be a nightmare. Ask any gay man and each one has a hook-up nightmare story that will either have you laughing your brains out or running for the hills...
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    Top, Bottom, or Versatile – He Is Who He Is

    Males who have gay sex as a whole have been bombarded by what has come to be known as “toxic masculinity.” Claiming they are less masculine simply because they have sex with other males. It is bad enough coming from the overcompensating machismo of homophobic straight people and/or those...
  • Two gay men looking at each other at Folsom Street East 2007

    Believe In Your DIRTY TALK Skills But Never Stop Improving

    The fear of talking dirty in the bedroom is not uncommon. Being verbal during sex might sound nasty, but for someone like myself, having a partner who is comfortable verbally in the bedroom is a major turn-on! A man who can tap into his inner Kinkster is a man...
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    How Do You Define GHOSTING 2.0?

    On Instagram today, I came across a statement posted by @theproblemgays that I agree with entirely. He writes, “Guys aren’t bad at texting. Guys are bad at being mature enough to say ‘I don’t like you enough to communicate solidly so I’m going to string you along for weeks...
  • Man staring outward with his left arm over his head with a black and red colorful light room thinking about his sex life

    Want To Step Up Your Sex Life? You Need To Read This First

    Everyone thinks they’re good in bed. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but a handful of you reading this are awful. If they had Yelp to review sex partners I would be the first to be reviewing a few I swear were the worst I’ve ever...
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    Don’t Be Fooled By Race Play

    I can remember that night like it was yesterday. The guy was hot, a fantasy come true. He was tall, bearded, blue-eyed, with a full head of hair, silver to be exact. Damn, the moment he walked in I was ready to strip down at the front door, but...
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    Amy Turner: An Artist You Should Know

    This year I attended RuPaul’s DragCon NYC for the first time, and it was an experience, one I will remember.  Even though I had a general idea of what to expect, I was pleasantly surprised to see a lot of independent artists exhibiting their work. From drag queens to...
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    How to Score a Date After a Hook Up

    Meeting online via a hook-up app has become extremely commonplace, but many of us still get confused when we meet someone online who we end up liking. Some of us do not know how to appropriately switch from hook-up to date. When it comes to dating especially meeting guys...
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    Why CRAPPY HOOK-UPS Is No Friend Of Mine

    “If you’re always ready, you don’t have to get ready” is a quote I wish someone would have shared with the last four guys that I’ve hooked up with who were all total bottoms over 40. If so I would not be needing to air my dirty laundry (pun...
  • Two gay men holding each other in a very tight embrace

    What Porn Does to Intimacy

    Compartmentalizing the physical act of sex from the emotional side of sex is nothing new among gay men but when the physical and the emotional combine, the fireworks fly and you have the best sex ever. In his article for the Huffington Post, “The Real Reason Why So Many Gay...
  • 2 hot latin shirtless posting in their underwear for Pelo films

    Colombia’s First Adult Studio, ‘A PELO FILMS’ Launches

    When Camilo Guerrero, a young man from Bogotá, decided to start in Colombia a somewhat outlandish idea as an adult entertainment producer, he had absolutely nothing, just an idea and the dream of turning that crazy thought into a reality. That’s how on August 2, 2016, A PELO FILMS...
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    Edward Murillo Moreno: The Life of a Male Gay Escorts

    For years I’ve been drawing men from all over the world: Colombian, Venezuelan, Russian, Chinese, Japanese, French, Italian and Hungarian most of the time. What I enjoy the most about drawing them are their life stories. Some of them reach me through social media or through my web, but...
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    ‘Racism in Gay Dating?!?’ Will it Ever Go Away?

    As an African-American Black Gay male, I have experienced “I don’t date black men” or even worse, I’ve seen dozens of profiles with “NO BLACKS” plastered on them, and it is true, white gay men (NOT ALL), will defend their right to post that on their profiles because it’s...
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