BOOTY CALL – Not For Everyone

There are many attractive men and women out there, not all who are looking for a committed or full time relationship. They literally just want to have fun.
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Interestingly enough, I recently had mixed opinions after posing the question, “Can one have a booty call without an emotional attachment?”  I was surprised the responses were mixed. Some people strongly believe you must have an emotional connection with the person to be able to have sex with them; the other percentage of people said no.  The people who said no believe that a ‘booty call is a booty call’, no attachment, just sex, fun, and fling! Of course, one has to put his mind in the appropriate place to embrace the fact ‘it is what it is’.

There are many attractive men and women out there, not all who are looking for a committed or full-time relationship.  They literally just want to have fun.  There is nothing wrong with that, as long as you practice safe sex of course.  Picture a hot summer night, you’re in the club and some hottie is flirting and grinding all up on you. Turned on? You are thinking you want some of that but you barely know them?  Well in the moment a booty call may be just what you want.  Who knows, you may end up liking the person and really getting to know them. It may even spawn that relationship you are secretly desiring from someone. If you are o.k with taking chances and not afraid of pure physical fun and instant gratification, then go for it!  Don’t be afraid, to be honest.

I believe that the majority of people would rather lie to a person than tell the truth. Why say, “Hey that was great, I’ll call you” if you never intend to call them at all? Why not call it what it is ‘ a one night stand’.  You can just as easily say, “I like what I see, I’m having a good time with you, do you want to take this further for the night?”  Be honest; the most you have to lose is your ego if they say no.

Now, I have to talk about the flip side of things.  Doesn’t everybody want to feel loved and wanted? Aren’t there some people out there long for that one person who will treat them like a King? The one person you have that emotional connection with that makes the physical connection that much deeper? Absolutely! Many people refuse to have sex with anyone unless they are emotionally connected. I guess for argument’s sake you could say that once you connect physically and your two bodies rhythmically move as one it does evoke a sensory-driven feeling that not only triggers an orgasm but may also trigger feelings generated from your mind, that in turn touch your heart.  Then again, some people are just in it for the orgasm.

If you find yourself at a crossroads right now where you are looking for love but haven’t found it, don’t feel like you just have to sit home and HOPE that someone will come along. If you want the love you have to be open to finding it and accepting it. In the meantime, if you are just looking for fun, go ahead and date, have your one night stands if that’s what you want and don’t be afraid to embrace your sexuality, not to mention the pleasure from whatever eye candy you are watching.

Just remember, safe sex is the best sex! Committed relationships, being treated like a King are divine but a hot booty call for some can be just as satisfying. Now tell me, are you a long term person or are booty calls for you?

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LA Writer: Host at "The Sensitive Nice Guy" radio show. Entertainment management and PR with a background in Psychology and Behavior Management.

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