How often do you hear the words, “I Love You”? Think about it; we hear it from our friends, our family, sometimes our co-workers and most definitely at some point from someone you are consistently dating. Question is, how do you know when it’s real? Love is not tangible so we can not measure it. Love is a feeling, an emotion that stirs our soul, our mind and our senses. The Wikipedia definition of Love states, ” A variety of different feelings, states and attitudes ranging from pleasure to interpersonal attraction. Strong affection and personal attachment, a virtue representing kindness, compassion, unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another”. Wow! That certainly is a long and widely defined word.
Now, take a look again at the words in the definition of “love”. Who comes to mind? Do you think of your children, spouse, boyfriend, girlfriend, friend? Here’s a question for you…do you think of “yourself”? Should you not feel those feelings towards yourself? Often times I believe that we over look loving ourselves. However, the most important love of all IS the love for yourself. If you don’t truly yourself, then you can not possibly love anyone else completely. Without self-love we allow ourselves to develop low self-esteem, attract dysfunctional relationships, settle and accept situations and relationships even when we deserve so much more. Which in turn, causes a snow ball effect, as well as an escalation of less than desirable circumstances.
Every person is a unique individual. We all have good points as well as not so good points. Everyone makes mistakes in life, but the fortunate ones realize that those are just lessons. Realize that “you” are worth loving. “You” have great qualities and deserve loyalty, passion, trust and everything that goes along with a great relationship. A good, healthy and loving relationship with yourself opens up doors for many opportunities in life including a great relationship with someone else, when and if you want it. With so much hate, distrust, violence and attacking in the world it’s not unforeseeable that one might become bitter, angry and shut their heart down. Is it worth it though? Is that healthy for you? Like I said, we have all done things in life we aren’t proud of. Maybe at some point we broke a law, used a person or were the victim of a circumstance that made us feel bad about ourselves. Remember, those are just “lessons”. Lessons to help you let go of the negativity and embrace the positives. Lessons that help you remember to love yourself.
We are all special in our own ways, all deserving of love. As humans, we are programmed to run off of feelings. Whether we use our brain more than our heart, or our heart more than our brain, it is all functioning off of feelings. Make your feelings positive. As the Wikipedia definition states, “affection, loyalty, attitude, etc.”…examine each word and know the meaning. Those are things you can give to yourself. You are more than worthy of loyalty, positive attitudes and good feeling affection. Now, go out there and give yourself the most important gift you can give you…the gift of Love. ‘Self-Love’, the most important love of all.