How to Make a Good Impression Meeting His Parents

Meeting someone’s family, especially during the holidays, is an important step in a relationship.
Young man smiling sitting on the floor with a Christmas Tree Behind Him

Is your family going to like me.

For many of you, this Christmas is going to be the first time you are meeting your significant other’s family and it can be rather daunting, nerve-wracking, and overwhelming. But, with these few tips and suggestions, you will make a great impression on your boyfriend’s relatives and get the approval you need!

First things first, do not show up empty handed. This doesn’t mean you need to bring each family member an engraved necklace or watch, but you should at least bring something to be shared with dinner. Use your boyfriend for this. Have them tell you what they would like or would get use out of. Most families are big drinkers (right? Or is that just mine?) so bringing their favorite bottle of wine will sure help you make a great first impression. And also, people tend to like you more when they are drunk. That’s just realistic.

Secondly, try to get to know each member of the family separately. It can be rather intimidating to sit in a crowded room full of grandmothers, aunts, uncles and cousins and try to relate to each one. During your stay, try to have a private one-on-one conversation with each person. Have your boyfriend give you conversation tips to help you relate and do some research. Not all of his family members are going to be up-to-date with RuPaul’s Drag Race, so try to Google their hobbies and interests. Not only will this give you something to talk about, but will make you feel comfortable and confident.

Speaking of confidence, make sure you make eye contact when speaking. This is something so simple that can be easily forgotten. This is usually the first thing I notice when I meet someone new. “Did they look me in the eye as they got to know me?” If they don’t, I am already turned off.  Unless they are buying me dinner, then I’m okay with it.

Lastly, be yourself. There is a reason your boyfriend is bringing you home to meet his parents and extended family. Show them the person their son fell in love with. Be outgoing, funny, entertaining, and respectful. Meeting someone’s family, especially during the holidays, is an important step in a relationship, and making sure that you follow these simple tips will not only ensure you have a fantastic holiday, but that your boyfriends’ family will love you.


Writer: James, a Florida native, has moved up to New York City in pursuit of the perfect slice of pizza...and to pursue a career as a writer. When he is not writing, he is reading the latest Nicholas Sparks novel, attempting a Macaroni and Cheese recipe found on Pinterest, or hanging out with friends at a bar downtown.