The Hidden Mystery Behind The REFRACTORY PERIOD

You might think you’re ready for round two, but the precious crown jewels are saying otherwise.
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Sex, erections, and orgasms are topics men like to talk about freely until they’re faced with the real issues or those untold truths. We’ve all been asked, “How soon after an orgasm can you start again?” The answer is usually, “a few minutes,” but unless you’re 18, you’re telling a big fat lie.

Richard K. Lee, M.D., of Weill Cornell Medicine, reports that the average man of a certain age is probably going to need at least an hour or two to become erect after ejaculating. If you watch porn, this might be disappointing to hear, the idea that guys should be able to have sex three or four times within a few hours on a Saturday night probably isn’t realistic for most men.

This topic reminds of the times I used to use hook-up apps and guys planning multiple sex dates on the same day. By the time the hook would arrive, they would have hooked up already or I would have masturbated so much the horniness was over. Even if a couple of hours passed, they could not get it up, were not hard enough, or too high to do anything but leave.

In fact, there’s no hard data (no pun intended) on how long your refractory period can last. The refractory period refers to the time lapse between your initial orgasm and when you’re able to experience an additional ejaculation and orgasm. According to the Journal of Sexual Medicine, the time can range from 30 minutes to 24 hours.

“Scientists aren’t exactly sure what’s responsible for the latency period. But research suggests that post-orgasmic spikes in the hormone prolactin—which hinders arousal and ejaculation—may contribute.” (Men’s Health)

If you’re over 40, you know that age plays a huge part in how quickly you can recover. Those of us who’ve been around the block a few times know alcohol, drugs and regularly masturbating can affect us in the bedroom and extend the time it takes us to recharge. Lifestyle habits can hinder you from getting hard, or if other factors — such as stress, new medications, or health conditions like heart disease — might be causing actual erectile dysfunction.

A person’s lifestyle choices play a big part in their sexual performance. You have to eat the right food (dietary changes), get the proper amount of sleep, and limit your alcohol and drug intake to ensure you can rock somebody’s world. If not, you might end up hearing, “Don’t Let The Door Hit You On The Way Out.”

But if it seems to take you days to regain your ability to function sexually, it may be time to tell your doctor.


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